I need to...

stop making ASSUMPTIONS...!

definition: something taken for granted; a supposition without proof; arrogance; presumption; conjecture, guess, theory..

you know that saying: "when you assume, you make an ass out of you and me"...?

well, i'm just beginning to realize how true that saying really is.

i think the problem is
that we have been raised to make conjectures:
in school, we have to come to conclusions about things all the time without 100% positivity;
in life, people speak in riddles and beat around the bush
instead of being straightforward,
and this creates a doorway for assumptions to be made.
we spend so much time sugar-coating things;
it is a rare thing when we get 100% straight-up truth.
for this reason, we are just in the habit of making assumptions
without actually stopping and taking a second to really THINK.

We also just don't LISTEN enough.
sure, we hear the words
and comprehend their textbook meaning.
but we should start THINKING
on more deeper a level.

this must be why people take the words "i love you" for granted,
and they say them without fully understanding them
on that deeper level.
i would venture to say that
those words mean something completely different than most people think.

also: just tell the TRUTH!
"We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger." ~Tad Williams
if we stopped lying and started telling the truth,
it makes it easier for others to understand us
and then they do not have to make assumptions!

maybe you don't necessarily "lie", but a half-truth makes a whole lie

in addition
we should not interrupt someone until they are done saying
whatever it is that they are saying!
it may seem that they are wrong
but they have not finished speaking yet
so how do you know for sure?
you don't!
so maybe it came out wrong and they need to clarify what they meant
or maybe they ARE simply wrong...
but i think we should remember that they have the right to finish their thought



for all these reasons,
i seem to be making assumptions
and i jump to conclusions way to quickly!
this is becoming a problem.

i am really going to start working on
listening to what people are saying to me
and thinking about it;
and thinking before i say something:
what does it mean?, what is its relevance to the conversation? how will the other party interpret it?
and then i should really stop interrupting people
when they are speaking to me
i am really going to start trying to LET THEM FINISH!

Rants and Raves

Rants:

i hate the following:

christmas music/commercials/decorations going up before thxgiving.
this habit is turning us into consumers and it defeats the purpose of christmas: love.
i dont care how much merchandise you need to sell,
stop making it about $$$$!

people with stupid tattoos.
a girl came into work the other day
with a full sleeve on her left arm.
okay so whatever you have a full sleeve.
but it was a full sleeve of paisley pattern,
yeah like you would see on a bandana.
honey, you've surpassed original...
how much do you think you'll like that in 10 years?

the radio playing the same songs over
and over
and over.
you'd think they would get tired of listening to them before i do,
but apparently not
because every time i turn the radio on i get nothing
but annoying over-played garbage.
thankfully,
Mason has been a dear and is letting me use his iTrip,
so this makes the music situation quite pleasant
as now i can listen to whatever i want
whenever i want.

DELL laptops.
i will NEVER purchase one
EVER again.
period.
mine is falling apart and i've only had it
2 years.
i had to put duct tape on it
tacky
but necessary.
and i had to buy a new charger
as the charger cord simply decided
that it was not going to work anymore.
and those things are not cheap!

arizona weather in the "fall"
its freezing in the morning
when i go to school
but by around 1 o'clock
i'm sweating
it is very difficult to dress for this kind of weather.




RAVES:

kudos to the Arizona Science Center
i have not been there since i was 11
and here i am 20
and they still manage to fascinate and entertain
<3

string cheese
i forgot how GOOD it is!
i was reading a magazine article about good snack food
and voila, there it was
a delicious snack,
and at just 80 calories!
no, but really
its soooooo good.

chameleons.
i'll post more on this topic later. :)

space heaters
you make life bearable
when dad refuses to turn on the heat just yet
but i cannot fall asleep
and when i do i cannot wake up
when it is soooo cold in my room at night.
my own little personal thermostat
that i can set to be
as WARM as i please!

novel: Sahara Special by Esmee Raji Codell
seriously did not think i was going to enjoy this book
but i did.
thoroughly.
you should read it.
period.

my new water bottle!
its purple!
it is BPA free!
it holds 24 oz!
it is so convenient!
and best of all,
it doesn't leak!
http://shopaladdin-pmi.com/detail/TCL+10-01001-004

skype:
best
thing
ever
created.
(for various reasons)




that is all.

Life Lately

a whole years worth of posts deleted.
but thats life, right?
i'm not sad...
i'm relieved.
and happy.
i'm growing up, and its good!
i've realized i have been neglecting some very important people:
myself, for one.
my family (love you mom)
but i'm figuring it out.
and i love it.

and i'm loving school, even though i have SO MUCH HOMEWORK!



I am happy for the first time in a long while.
I feel content with my life as it is.

more later, i'm in class....just felt like posting!